Why multiple wives doesn't work (for most of us).

I want to start by saying that these are my opinions and I mean no disrespect to other people’s religious beliefs or values. But there are 7 reasons why I’d find multiple wives a bad idea for me, and for the vast majority of men.

Here they are:

1. Let’s start with the obvious one. I love and respect my wife and child too much to dilute our bond by introducing additional women and over a dozen children into our household.

2. My conscience would never allow it. I wouldn’t care how happy my wives claimed to be with the arrangement. Knowing human psychology as I do, I’d never believe they were truly content. And this would eat away at me.

3. Some men will argue that the right type of woman is ok with being one of many wives but my idea of the right type of woman is one with enough self-respect to demand the same exclusivity she gives me.

4. Others will argue: if you’re rich and alpha enough, women have no problem being one of several wives. But to this I say: I don’t want to marry a woman who’s happy to forgo relationship satisfaction in favor of material possessions or because she feels my excessive testosterone demands multiple life partners.

5. It creates a misbalance. The proportion of straight men to straight women is roughly 50/50. If everyone decided it was ok to have multiple wives, and the average man married 4 women, that would guarantee 75% of men remain forever single.

6. It would all but inevitably lead to incest breeding. Let’s say having multiple wives becomes widely accepted and on average men have 4 wives with 3 children per wife. That’s 12 children within one generation. Now, if 6 of those children are boys and each of them have 4 wives with 3 children of their own, and 6 of them are girls, who each have 3 children with their polyamorous husbands, that’s 96 children sharing the same direct bloodline to their grandfather. Within a couple of generations of this, there would be thousands of men and women who are very closely related. This makes it very difficult to track who’s related to who, leading to incest breeding, wide-scale birth deformities, and toxic gene pools.

7. As the father of a little girl, I would hate the idea that one day she grows up and becomes one of several wives to a man – and so what kind of hypocrite would that make me if I’m ok with one rule for me and another for her.

I think a lot of the guys who are encouraging young men to marry multiple women are actually just trying to justify the fact they’ve either never experienced a special enough bond with one woman, that they don’t respect women enough to give them exclusivity, or that they don’t possess the self control to remain faithful. Whatever the reason, I think if it moved into the mainstream, it would be dangerous, impractical, unfair, and unhealthy for civilization.