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YOU DON'T NEED CONFIDENCE TO APPROACH WOMEN

You need a system that makes taking action inevitable, even when you're nervous.

Go from overthinking to starting conversations naturally and getting dates consistently.

No scripts. No fake personas. No guesswork.

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Made my first ever approach yesterday... Did 7 more today ��

  • Got 2 numbers in one night

  • She stayed and kept asking questions

  • Women actually appreciate when I approach

  • She laughed straight away

  • Turned everyday errands into opportunities

  • Approached before the doubt kicked in

  • Started talking to women anywhere naturally

  • Did 5 approaches without overthinking

  • Actually knew what to say in the moment

  • Walked up while still nervous

  • First ever number on the first night out

  • Conversation flowed instead of dying

  • Didn’t freeze when he saw her

  • First number after years of hesitation

  • No awkward silence for the first time

  • Got a number at the library

  • Didn’t need to psych himself up

  • Her smile told him it was going well

  • Stopped looping in his head

  • Turned a random chat into a date

  • It felt natural instead of forced

  • People started noticing his confidence in public

  • Finally learned how to approach at the gym

  • Got a date from a grocery store conversation

  • The boys started asking what I’m saying

  • No more going home wondering “what if”

  • Got a number while grabbing coffee

  • Started conversations on public transport

  • Became the guy who actually walks up

The system that makes action inevitable
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You don't approach women.
Not because you don't know what to say.
It's because you hesitate.

You overthink. Wait for the "perfect moment."
And when it doesn't come, you promise yourself: "next time."

Most advice tells you to feel confident first, then act.

This teaches you: act first, confidence follows.

The Approach Confidence Formula gives you a simple system you follow in real time:

✔ How to take action instantly (without overthinking)
✔ How to open conversations naturally (no scripts)
✔ How to keep the interaction flowing
✔ How to turn conversations into numbers and dates

So instead of standing there thinking…
you just do it.

Conversations happen naturally.
And phone numbers and dates become a natural, consistent outcome.

I don’t mean to brag…
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But when I was young and single, I had a talent no man could match:

I was a master at avoiding talking to women.

I’m not approaching her…
– I’m not really feeling the vibe in here tonight.
– I need to loosen up first. (I was already 7 beers deep)
– She’s with her friend… I don’t want to intrude.
– She’s by herself… she probably wants to be left alone.

In the moment, these excuses felt safe.
Over time, they kept me stuck.

Because behind them, the truth was simple:
I didn’t think I was good enough.
So I rejected myself before she ever could.

What most men get wrong
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Here's what I've learned after coaching 500+ men:
Most assume they struggle with women because they’re not good enough.

Not tall enough.
Not rich enough.
Not handsome enough.
Not popular enough.

But that’s not what’s holding you back.

I hear this all the time:

"I saw this unbelievably hot girl… then I saw her boyfriend. Super average looking dude. How the fuck did he get her?"

It's Simple.
He was willing to talk to her.

You’re not missing out because something’s wrong with you.
You’re missing out because you’re not taking action.

What happens when you finally act
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The first time I approached a woman was at the shops.

My heart raced. You could hear it in my breathing.
I felt awkward as hell. I had no idea what to say.

But I went over anyway.

We spoke for a bit. Nothing crazy.
It didn’t end with a date. But more importantly, it wasn’t a disaster.

I pictured humiliation. Onlookers staring and laughing. Security busting me for being a creep.
Instead, it was just a brief, friendly interaction.

That was the moment everything started to shift.

I stopped waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect thing to say.
I just started acting.

After 10 or so approaches, something interesting happens.

You get pretty damn good at it.

✔ You stop blanking mid-sentence.
✔ You don’t panic about what to say next.
✔ You stop second-guessing every word.
✔ You feel calm and present…
And women start responding to it.

The first time you get a number, it feels like winning the lottery.
The eighth time, a pleasant but unsurprising outcome.

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Before long, my mates gave me shit because the women I dated were “way too hot” for me. I wore those insults like a badge of honour.

If it’s that simple...
why don’t all men do it?

Because at the start, taking action is uncomfortable.
So they fall back on something they’re told is way easier:

Dating apps.

Tell me if this sounds “easy”…

Men outnumber women at least 5:1 on most apps.
80% of men don’t even stand a chance.

It takes 100+ swipes to get one match.
That’s 99 rejections for each “yes.”

Most matches never reply to your opener.
When one finally does…
It’s usually dry and low-effort.
Keeping the conversation going feels like pulling teeth.

And when you finally get a date…
You’re more excited that it happened than about her.

After a while…
You start to believe that there’s no quality women left.

Tinder fails

But that’s bullshit.

Walk into any busy shopping centre.
Look around for 30 seconds.

You’ll see attractive women everywhere.

✔ Normal.
✔ Friendly.
✔ Approachable.

You’re not out of options.
You’re just hiding from them.

The opportunity men are missing
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Most modern men don't approach women in real life.
Their entire dating lives rely on the apps.

Which means if you can approach, make her laugh, and hold a real conversation… you immediately stand out.

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The competition drops off a cliff.

Imagine this:

You step out to grab milk…
see a woman you’re attracted to…
and come home with plans for drinks on Saturday night.

Or:

You spend hours on the couch swiping, messaging, waiting…
Suddenly it's midnight, you’ve got work in the morning… and nothing to show for it.

What real confidence looks like
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Most guys think confidence is loud, smooth or ‘alpha’.
Like it’s something you can rehearse.
But women see straight through that.

Real confidence isn’t believing you’ll always win.
It’s being unafraid to lose.

Having the courage to show your interest…
without needing it returned.

Because when you’re not attached to the outcome,
you’re finally free to take action.

You stop trying to impress.
And actually start to connect.
That’s what attracts women.

What my clients say
Dating after divorce sucked. It felt embarrassing. You made things way easier. You helped me to get out there, strike up conversations, stay out of my head, feel good about myself. I’d recommend you to any man who’s been out of the game.
Used to be so scared of rejection I couldn’t look a hot girl in the eye. The ACF changed how I see it. Now it’s just part of the process. The less I care about it, the more women seem to notice (and I end up getting rejected a lot less).
I worked with Matt because I was sick of watching my friends pull girls while I sat by and did nothing. My friends now call me the “Trojan horse.” When we see a group of pretty girls, I’m always the first one over to talk to them, flirt, and introduce my friends.
Until discovering Matt, I was super into Andrew Tate type content. Unlike most anti-redpill stuff his advice was never man-bashing. I actually wanted to listen. Matt helped me stop resenting women and being bitter about my singleness. I’ve had a beautiful girlfriend for almost 1.5 years now. THANKS MATT.
The OQC exercises took all the nerves out of going up to any woman. And stuff like the approach formula and the rejection reframing stuff were cherries on top. I’m not perfect yet, but I often get dates now and I’ve completely stopped sweating rejection.
After the first couple of weeks working together, it really pissed me off to realise how many excuses I’d been making. But on the other hand, I’ve been on 7 dates in the past month. The shame was absolutely worth the outcome.

The system that gets you there
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This isn’t pickup advice.

No cheesy lines.
No manipulation.
No fake personas.

Because those things don’t lead to the kind of women you actually want.

This is about building real confidence through action.
The kind that feels natural, looks natural, and creates genuine attraction.

Proven across 500+ men in coaching and course environments.

From the moment you notice her…
to the moment you set up the date,
you’ll know exactly what to do:.

✔ Overcome the mental blocks stopping you from approaching
✔ Handle rejection without it knocking your confidence
✔ Start conversations without overthinking
✔ Keep things natural, engaging, and playful
✔ Flirt and build attraction without forcing it
✔ Get her number and follow up properly
✔ Turn interactions into actual dates

Built on real-world reps, simple frameworks, and consistent action, designed to be completed over 8 weeks, one module per week.

So you’re not guessing what to do…
you’re executing.

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Who this is for?

– You hesitate when you see a woman you want to talk to
– You rely on dating apps but hate the experience
– You feel like modern dating is a frustrating, low-return game
– You know you're capable of more, but you're not acting on it

Who this is NOT for?

– You're already consistently approaching and dating women
– You're looking for tricks, shortcuts, or manipulation
– You're not willing to gradually step outside your comfort zone

About The Creator

I’m Matthew Macdonald, founder of Men with Manners.

I'm also married to the love of my life and dad to two hilarious little legends.

I’ve worked with over 500 men one-on-one, helping them overcome approach anxiety and become confident in real-world interactions with women.

I’m not a pickup artist.
I don’t teach manipulation.
Everything I teach comes from what actually works.
In real conversations.
With real women.

PS the convo bait is insane. Had 3 girls message ME first... thought they were bots �� (10)

In 2020, I became obsessed with solving one problem:

How do you take a guy who hesitates… and turn him into someone who takes action naturally?

Not through hype.
Not through scripts.

But through a clear, repeatable system that removes the guesswork, while still allowing you to be yourself.

I didn’t want to create clones.
I wanted to build something that adapts to your personality… and brings out your most confident, grounded, charismatic self.

After five years… and hundreds of real-world iterations…

The Approach Confidence Formula is that system. 

Here’s the reality
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If nothing changes, nothing changes.

You’ll keep seeing opportunities… and letting them pass.
Keep telling yourself “next time”… and doing the same thing again.

Until “next time” quietly turns into months… then years.

And that hesitation?
It doesn’t stay neutral.

It turns into frustration.
Doubt.
And the creeping belief that maybe this just isn’t for you.

Or…

You build a skill that most men never develop:

The ability to walk over, start a conversation, and create real opportunities… anytime, anywhere.

This isn’t years away.

Within weeks, you start noticing the shift.

✔ You hesitate less.
✔ You act more.
✔ Conversations get easier.

And once it starts…

It compounds.

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