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title: What's the ideal first date?
description: Discover the ideal first date options based on preferences from over 1,800 women. Find the perfect balance between casual and specific for a memorable experience.
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# [What's the ideal first date?](https://www.menwithmanners.com/advice/whats-the-ideal-first-date)

 Written by [Matthew](https://www.menwithmanners.com/advice/author/matthew-macdonald) | Apr 3, 2026 3:53:18 AM

This is a topic of much debate.  
According to a poll involving 1,800+ women between 25-35:

11% prefer when men go all-out.   
Fine-dining, champagne.

8% prefer zero planning.   
“Wanna hang out?”

81% prefer something specific, but casual.  
✅ 45 to 90 minute duration  
✅ Easy exit if you're not vibing  
✅ Option to extend if it's going well

Examples:  
– Coffee and a walk (public park, not remote trail)  
– Brunch  
– Casual lunch (sushi, tacos, pizza, ramen)  
– A drink at a nice bar  
– Browsing market stalls  
– Ice cream/smoothie

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