Guidance

Don't impress, assess.

Written by Matt Macdonald | Apr 2, 2026 12:03:44 AM

When you meet attractive women, stop defaulting to: "I must impress."

Focus instead on assessing compatibility.

"I really hope she likes me" leads to people-pleasing, performing, pedestalising, and awkward nervousness.

"I wonder if I'll like her" inspires curiosity, authenticity, reserve, and genuine attentiveness.