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title: Don't be the premature boyfriend
description: Why early boyfriend behaviours are keeping you single.
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 April 16, 2026

# Don't be the premature boyfriend

![Picture of Matthew](https://www.menwithmanners.com/hs-fs/hubfs/PS%20the%20convo%20bait%20is%20insane.%20Had%203%20girls%20message%20ME%20first...%20thought%20they%20were%20bots%20%F0%9F%98%82%20(10).png?width=50&name=PS%20the%20convo%20bait%20is%20insane.%20Had%203%20girls%20message%20ME%20first...%20thought%20they%20were%20bots%20%F0%9F%98%82%20(10).png) By  [ Matthew ](https://www.menwithmanners.com/advice/author/matthew-macdonald)  ·   1 minute read

Certain behaviours are appreciated, or at the very least accepted, once you're in a committed relationship. But in the very early stages of getting to know someone, they're more likely to scare them away.

Stuff like…  
– Being jealous about her male friend  
– Liking and commenting on all her posts  
– Double-texting when she hasn’t replied  
– Making long-term plans   
– Buying expensive gifts

You might think you're signalling loyalty, thoughtfulness, intention, and affection. She likely sees it as insecurity, clinginess, over-investment, and love-bombing.

Attraction makes people do crazy things.  
But be cool, you just met.

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